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I'm a Mother of three, a lover of so much.

Unshackled: Every Birthing Woman Has a Choice!

When is the first time you realized you had true choice and autonomy in birth?

Are you on the threshold of just now realizing this?

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Below are some of the ways in which women are often surprised to know that THEY (in conjunction with their womb babies)  have the ultimate say in their birth experience.   Note:  This doesn’t mean that we get to choose the outcome, but we DO get to influence the overall experience.  Similar to how when we go on a hike, we can choose different trails and the general pace but the summit is the same.

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Barring evidence-based medical necessity, healthy women who are pregnant and/or in labor:

  • Don’t need an IV in labor or even a hep-lock (unless you choose pain medication)
  • Don’t have to head to the hospital/birth center immediately after their water breaks (always check for signs of meconium)
  • Do not require induction prior to 42 weeks
  • Can choose to birth at home, in a hospital, a birth center, on any other wild wonderful place on Earth
  • Do not require ultrasounds during pregnancy
  • May decline any routine testing/procedures for themselves and their newborn
  • Do not need vaginal exams prior to or during labor (generally a hospital does have a policy for requiring a certain cervical dilation before they admit a patient).
  • May labor and push in any position she desires (mamas/dads/partners, midwives and ob’s can catch/deliver a baby in just about any position)
  • Does not require continual fetal monitoring (some providers do have protocol around VBAC’s but even these can be discussed prenatally with your midwife/OB)
  • Can ask if the hospital has wireless fetal monitors (many do and some are even submersible in water)
  • Does not have to receive Pitocin to “speed up” a natural labor (there are so many other natural alternatives as well as the good ol’ “Wait and See”)
  • May eat and drink in labor (most women only want small bites of food but hydration is very important)
  • May wear her own clothing or none at all (don’t have to wear the hospital gown)
  • Don’t always follow a standard “pattern” for labor contractions and progress
  • Can labor in water even after her water has released (water broken)
  • Can be in charge of her ambient environment; ask to have lights dimmed, music on, temperature adjusted, etc.
  • Doesn’t have to follow “coached pushing” if birthing unmedicated (can follow her own body cues)
  • May feel her baby as he/she is crowning
  • Can decline an episiotomy in favor of allowing her body to tear
  • Has options even when a C-section is chosen:  can request that sleep medications not be added to her IV, may apply essential oils to pulse points to help calm and ease her, can have partner take photos/videos, may ask for immediate and continual skin-to-skin contact, etc).
  • May ask for her or her partner to help catch the baby
  • May delay cord clamping until the cord has stopped pulsing
  • Does not require routine intravenous or intramuscular Pitocin immediately following birth
  • May view and/or keep her placenta
  • May keep her baby skin-to-skin, with her, at all times and until she is ready for the newborn exam
  • Can choose not to have her baby bathed, circumcised, vaccinated, eye-ointment, sent to nursery, etc

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Share with me some of the other ways in which women have choices in their beautiful birth experience!

“I Couldn’t Have Done it Without You”

“I couldn’t have done it without you”

they often whisper in my ear, breathless

cheeks rosy from the work of birth

sweet beads on their clavicle

 

“not only could you have, but you did”

is what i whisper back

eyes always filling from the bottom up

like little prayers

 

it wasn’t me there

as she hung her head back

between the tidal waves

jaw as loose as the

hinges on the open door in her heart

 

it wasn’t me that pushed

tired feet into the ground

and gripped the door jamb

as moans from the other side came forth

 

it wasn’t me that used the

tip of the heart like a spade

to dig down deeper, even deeper,

to find courage and one last bit of braided strength

 

it wasn’t me that allowed the fire

to singe just enough so that

all the old wounds could be burned

and passage could be cleared

 

and of course it wasn’t me

who knelt on one bended knee

in genuflection to the alter of birth

as a baby was moved from that space to this one

and unfurled into her own waiting hands

 

i look at her, at you, at them

and i know more than i ever have

in that precise moment of infinite time

and i whisper to her

“i couldn’t have done it with you”

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Spring E-Course {Registration Open}

{from my latest newsletter}

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10 is the magic number….

I would like to offer another Spring Doula E-Course session from April 8 – 28th.    However, to make it worth everyone’s effort and time I would like to have at least 10 conscientious participants.   Could one of them be you?  If you have serious interest in delving deep into the world of Birth, please click on this link to register.

Discounted Price:  $60!

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 ”This is what you have given me:  So much more respect for mothers, women, babies, children, families, birth, life.  You have filled my mind with your knowledge and openness, you have filled my spirit with the outmost respect. And you have given me calmness, as I try to slow down my life, and connect.” - Camila, Fall e-course participant

A Rosy Approach

“Attending births is like growing roses. You have to marvel at the ones that just open up and bloom at the first kiss of the sun but you wouldn’t dream of pulling open the petals of the tightly closed buds and forcing them to blossom to your time line.” – Gloria Lemay

 

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